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Shelbry Cecilia Herndon Bender

November 5, 1956 - December 20, 2021

Shelbry Cecilia Herndon Bender of Rustburg, Virginia joyfully entered this life on November 5, 1956.
Born in Campbell County Virginia, she was the second child of Roger and the late Shirley Lavearn (Mickles) Herndon. Beloved Shelbry received her wings and journeyed home to be with the Lord on Monday, December 20, 2021, while visiting with her daughter in Atlanta, Georgia.
Shelbry, affectionally called “Puddin” and “Sapphire”, attended Rustburg Public Schools. Growing up in a house with three outspoken girls had its challenges, but Puddin always held the title as the older sister in which we are proud of. Her role included being financially generous to her middle sister, Cookie, while she was in college. She always made sure she had spending money for the weekends. Ronnie Cake, being the youngest sister, spent a lot of time with Puddin growing up. The two would play nicely at times and not so nicely other times, but it always ended with love. Puddin attend Phillips Business College for two years. Her hobbies included writing narratives, crocheting, and going out with friends for a good time. She accepted her first job at Imperial Reading in Lynchburg, Virginia. She worked there, with her mother, for several years until she decided that the world was a big place and she wanted to experience life outside of Rustburg.
After making such a big decision, Puddin traveled to Florida to visit cousins. Loving everything about Florida, she gladly relocated there and began to build a life for herself. During that time, she met and married Julius Bender III. From that union, they had one daughter, Shirkenia Aliceia whom they both loved and adored.
As a family, they moved to Decatur, GA where Puddin worked for Park and Ride company at Hartsfield Airport in Atlanta until her health no longer allowed her to work. There she met life-long friends and companions who played major roles throughout her life.
Puddin accepted a love for Christ at an early age and became a member of Chapel Grove Baptist Church of Evington Virginia. While living in Georgia, she attended New Beginning Full Gospel Church. Puddin loved listening to different church services on TV and on the radio. She especially loved watching Tyler Perry’s productions and listening to gospel music, such as Lee Williams & The Spiritual QC’s.
Around 2002, Puddin was diagnosed with a rare autoimmune disease called Stiff Person Syndrome (SPS), which she discovered she may have been born with. This is a rare Autoimmune Disease impacted her joints and muscles and can be very painful; however, she was a fighter until the very end.
Puddin was preceded in death by her mother Shirley L. Herndon and her infant brother, Roger Nathaniel Herndon.
Celebrating Puddin’s life and cherishing her memory are her beloved daughter Shirkenia Bender, her forever son-in-law Ash Barrett, her best friend James Revely, her ex-husband Julius Bender III, her father Roger Herndon, two sisters Shelia Perry-Bush (Charles), Veronica Blank, one niece Shannon Werts (Kenneth), one nephew Eugene C. Perry, III (Cares), two great nieces Kiley & Kenzie Werts, two great nephews Kenneth Werts, Jr., Eugene C. Perry IV; one of many Godchildren Mari Bunkley, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins and a host of friends.
A homegoing service will be held at 12 p.m. in the chapel of Tharp Funeral Home, Thursday, Dec. 30,2021 with a visitation one hour prior to the service. Tharp Funeral Home, Lynchburg is assisting the family.

A homegoing service will be held at 12 p.m. in the chapel of Tharp Funeral Home, Thursday, Dec. 30,2021 with a visitation one hour prior to the service. Tharp Funeral Home, Lynchburg is assisting the family.

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Mom Dukes <3 you will forever, for all eternity & infinitely remain in my heart. I enjoyed taking care of you. I enjoy loving you still. You are irreplaceable and you know that. Your soul still shines forth as the sun shines and the moon glows. You’re with me still - I feel you and still hear your voice. Now we can truly never be separated…like we always wished. Thank you for allowing me to be your daughter…for bringing me into this world. Thank you for teaching me unconditional love, compassion, how to be humble and the power of quiet strength. Sometimes I said things too abrupt or aggressively, but you got me (corrected me too lol) and still knew I cared. You believed in my dreams, cheered me on and helped me strategize the moves to make. You nurtured me with words, kisses & hugs. Lol them hugs were soooo special to me (even though I squirmed to get loose haha). Traveling with you was amazing. Seeing how happy you were and watching you get in touch with yourself again was a miracle in itself. The love advice you gave me is priceless - thank you. We always had a blast when you lived with me (or had a looonng visit lol). Spa days, long chats, smoothies and drives around town were our thing. Watching you grow through your challenges is the biggest honor because through your struggle & your Divine Loyalty you showed me the way. Mmm mmm mmm….I could go on and on singing your praises. I appreciate your Light. I love you Ma, Lumpkin Your Sweet Thang

Posted by Kenia on January 1, 2022

Shelby we will always love you. Julius and Kenia God will continue to take good care of you and keep his arms around you. We all will continue in this life until God bless us to be together again. Love your sister Aisha and family

Posted by Aisha Albakri on December 31, 2021

Shelby we will always love you. Julius and Kenia God will continue to take good care of you and keep his arms around you. We all will continue in this life until God bless us to be together again. Love your sister Aisha and family

Posted by Aisha Albakri on December 31, 2021

Shelby we will always love you. Julius and Kenia God will continue to take good care of you and keep his arms around you. We all will continue in this life until God bless us to be together again. Love your sister Aisha and family

Posted by Aisha Albakri on December 31, 2021

Shelby we will always love you. Julius and Kenia God will continue to take good care of you and keep his arms around you. We all will continue in this life until God bless us to be together again. Love your sister Aisha and family

Posted by Aisha Albakri on December 31, 2021

Shelby we will always love you. Julius and Kenia God will continue to take good care of you and keep his arms around you. We all will continue in this life until God bless us to be together again. Love your sister Aisha and family

Posted by Aisha Albakri on December 31, 2021

May God comfort your family. I will miss you Shelbry.

Posted by Denise M on December 30, 2021

May God comfort your family. I will miss you Shelbry.

Posted by Denise M on December 30, 2021

I will always cherish the memories shared with my forever Mother-in-law Shelbry Bender. She was kind, loving, and always loved to share her mind with those she loved. Even in the midst of her struggle, she never gave up but always had a positive attitude. I have much to learn regarding her strength. Love you mom! I wish for strength, comfort, and love to Granddaddy,Kenia, Ronnie Cake, Cookie, Julius, and family.

Posted by Ash Barrett on December 30, 2021

Aunt Shelbry we will miss you and we love you always. Love Lisa and Family

Posted by Lisa Sterdivant on December 30, 2021

May God Comfort your family during this very sad day. Puddin will be missed. My condolences to the family and friends.

Posted by April Rucker on December 30, 2021

May God Comfort your family during this very sad day. Puddin will be missed. My condolences to the family and friends.

Posted by April Rucker on December 30, 2021

May God Comfort your family during this very sad day. Puddin will be missed. My condolences to the family and friends.

Posted by April Rucker on December 30, 2021

We will miss you Love Vonda Mischa Kyle

Posted by Vonda on December 30, 2021

We will miss you and we send much love to the family. Love Vonda Micsha and Kyle

Posted by Vonda simpson on December 30, 2021

Where lives pass, memories live forever. May God bless you and comfort you.

Posted by Delphine Bell & Family on December 30, 2021

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